often I wonder if this is what I really need to do.
Apparently I NEVER HAD A GIRLHOOD. *Gasp* But seriously, I never had any desire to do much of this stuff.Ok and beyond “shamless” why is throwing a tantrum, questioning things, etc considered part of girlhood specifically anyway? I know, I take everything way too seriously.
Wow, I didn’t notice it said “shamless.” I mean probably it’s supposed to say “shameless,” but “shamless” is actually pretty awesome. I would really like to be without sham, seriously.
I think reclaiming girlhood is different from having had a girlhood, and I think it refers specifically to NOT having had a girlhood, and making femininity visible.
I feel weird lately about femininity. I mean, I feel weird always about femininity. So when I said “I wonder if I need to do this”, I meant, I feel like I need to explore whether these things can be relevant to my life right now, because maybe they would be valuable to the person I am becoming/wish to become/am being guided into being by my Free Will Horoscopes.
Except I don’t want to throw temper tantrums because that’s something I have done as an adult and it wasn’t cool at all.
I always thought your temper tantrums were totally endearing. And I don’t mean that in a condescending way at all.
I think you should totally explore femininity if you’re feeling the call. That was just my smartass response because it’s not as though I didn’t have a girlhood because I was never stereotypically girly.
But also what is femininity? Genuine question. Is it more that stereotypes or typical gender traits? What is innate and what is learned?
Gah this is super exciting that this is causing people to think!!! This is from a zine I just made that was about well, reclaiming your girlhood (whether or not you had one) and exactly what I bolded in the commentary. This is the more in depth version if anyone was wondering:
1. QUESTION EVERYTHING: Think about the way you saw the world when everything was new and it was yr first time experiencing it. Think about why you do what you do the way you wondered about why adults and yr peers did what they did.
2. PLAY DRESS UP: Explore yr gender presentation, especially in regards to femme gender expression. Remember how powerful and revealing it can be to wear a costume. Remember how powerful it can be to just dress yrself for yrself!!!
3. FEEL CUTE: Because you are, so accept those compliments!! When you tell a little girl that you like her dress, she doesn’t tell you about how the color is wrong or it doesn’t fit right- she lights up and offers to show you her matching purse and shoes!!! Yr bloated belly and chubby cheeks were and still are downright adorable, and acknowledging those who acknowledge you will make everyone feel good.
4. FORGET YR MANNERS: You don’t always have to be polite, and you definitely don’t always have to play nice. Remember what it’s like to put yr needs first because even if everyone seems to want a piece of you, you aren’t always obliged to give it to them.
5. THROW TEMPER TANTRUMS: Sometimes you just have to cry, scream, yell and shout! Reclaiming yr girlhood is also about reclaiming the expression of emotions you were taught to repress. Remember how good it feels to get it all out without the fear of being irrational, or overly emotional.
6. BE SHAMELESS: Think of the little girls, lifting their skirts up at the dinner table without shame. Ask dirty messy taboo questions with honesty and even a bit of naivety, without the fear of judgment. Make people uncomfortable, in hopes that it will make the world a safer and freer place.
7. DREAM BIG: Remember what it was like when you believed anything was possible, before you realized the (sometimes false) limitations of yr capacity.
8. TEND TO YR INNER GIRL: Don’t be afraid of recognizing and nursing the wounds you’ve carried yr whole life. Acknowledge yr inner girl and take care of her so that you can begin to piece together the parts of you that you weren’t even aware were broken.